In an earlier post on Sohni Mahiwal I had said that folklore is a mixture of beliefs, facts and fiction and that it was always a poet who immortalized a love story. But a poet chose to sing a particular story, and not the other, because of its inherent drama, beauty and poignancy.
Mirza and Sahiban is one such story.
The story came down to us through a 17th century Punjabi poet, Piloo (Peeloo), in an oral or ballad form. Since then many poets and writers have written the story. But because of its unique rustic style, brevity and boldness, Piloo’s version of the story became popular and is widely sung and celebrated in rural Punjab even today.
The story has also been translated into Urdu, both in poetry and prose. Also, a short version in English is included in a book ‘The Legends of the Punjab‘ written by one Captain R. C. Temple in 1884.
Interestingly, the education department of Punjab published Mirza Sahiban in Urdu in the early years of Pakistan. The title of the story reads:
Mirza Sahiban (for adults), Education Department Punjab, Lahore (1951).
Since most (yes, I said most) of the ATP readers, I assume, are adults I have no qualms in relating the story, as I know it.
The dates are controversial but the events of the story are generally believed to have taken place during or around the time of the Mughal king Akbar. And the geographical area where all this happened was between the rivers Ravi and Chenab.
In a village called Khewa, near present day Jhang, a woman named Nooran gave birth to a boy. Nooran died while the child was still in infancy. Therefore, the boy was wet-nursed by another woman who had a suckling daughter. Thus, according to the traditions of the time the boy and the girl became siblings. The boy grew up to become the chief of his village and of the Sayyal tribe that inhabited the area, and came to be known as Khewa Khan. His “sibling”, the baby girl, grew up to become Fateh Bibi and was married to a man named Wanjal (or Banjal), of the Kharral tribe, who lived in village Danababad, which is today in Tehsil Jarranwala, district Faisalabad.
Khewa and Danabad were short of a day’s ride from each other on horseback.
Mirza, the hero of our story, was born to Fateh Bibi and Wanjal while Sahiban, the heroine, was the daughter of Khewa Khan. As already explained, since Fateh Bibi and Khew Khan were suckled by the same woman Mirza and Sahiban ended up being “cousins”.
Mirza must have been 8 or 9 when his parents decided to send him to Khewa to live with his “mamoo”, Khewa Khan. It was not unusual those days for parents to send their kids to live with their nanihal (mother’s relatives) or dadihal (father’s relatives) for education or for other reasons.
Khewa Khan enrolled both Mirza and Sahiban at the local mosque, the usual place for basic education those days. A student would start off with alphabet, patti as it was called, and then graduate to reading the Quran, chapter by chapter, and then to other subjects, if any, depending on the interest of the student and his/her parents. The imam of the mosque, commonly called maulvi or qazi, would be the sole teacher.
Like most teachers of his time, the maulvi who taught Mirza and Sahiban was a stickler for pedagogical rules, and the golden rule was “spare the rod and spoil the child”. As a tool of punishment he used what in Punjabi is called a chimmak. It is a thin green twig or branch of a tree shorn of leaves or any thorns. When struck on any part of the body it sends a flaming sensation through the body - and the soul, too, I guess.
Years passed and both Mirza and Sahiban, while graduating from one year to the other, also advanced into adolescence and to adulthood. They discovered that they liked to be in each other’s company.
Actually, Actually, Mirza and Sahiban fell madly in love with each other - a love that was honest, blind and reckless. Often in the ‘class’ they would be more absorbed into each other than to paying attention to the maulvi who had to resort to the chimmak to get their attention. According to the story, Sahiban, once when struck by the maulvi for not memorizing her lesson correctly, addresses him thus:
Na maar qazi chimkaaN, na day tatti nooN taa
Parrhna sada reh gaya lay aaye ishq likha
O qazi, don’t beat me with the stick; don’t burn me. I am already burning [with love]. Books are of no use to us, for love is now writ in our destiny.
Sahiban had grown into a very beautiful young woman. Piloo, the poet, describes her beauty with the usual poetic exaggeration. He says that when Sahiban went shopping the grocer would be so distracted by her beauty that he would place wrong weights in the tarakrri (weighing scale), and instead of oil that she wanted he would pour honey. At another place the poet says when Sahiban walked past the fields the farmers would stop plowing and would stand transfixed by her beauty.
Mirza also grew into a strapping, handsome young man. He had shoulder length hair, was a good horse rider, was known for his bravery and physical courage, and was a deadly shot with his bow and arrow. His marksmanship was legendary. His arrow would never miss its target.
Mirza and Sahiban’s love affair soon became the talk of the town. Sahiban’s father would have none of it and soon packed Mirza off to his home in Danabad. Also, a suitable young man from his own tribe, named Tahir Khan, was found to marry Sahiban and a date was set for the wedding.
Sahiban, when she came to know of her imminent marriage, sent an emissary to Mirza asking him to come and get her before she was bundled off to a new home.
Mirza couldn’t and wouldn’t let this happen. He announced his decision to go to Khewa and get Sahiban. His parents and sister tried to dissuade him from going, saying that the Sayyal women could not be trusted and that he was taking a big risk going to Khewa. His father’s words of advice and warning are quite revealing of the values of the time, some of which persist even today. He says: “To hell with these women. Their brains are in their heels. They fall in love laughing and tell their story to everyone crying. One should not step inside the house of a woman with whom he is in love. Honor, once lost, cannot be purchased back even by spending millions.” However, when the father realized that Mirza would not be dissuaded, he says: “I see you are determined to go. Then don’t come back without Sahiban. It’s a question of our honor. Bring her with you!”
Mirza readies his horse, collects his bow and quiver and sets off to Khewa on the day Sahiban’s wedding is to take place. He reaches Khewa when the wedding party (barat) has just arrived and is being feasted. Sahiban, decked in her bridal dress, her hands and feet died with henna, is tucked away in a room somewhere upstairs. Mirza, knowing the layout of the house from the years he had spent in it, quietly slips inside and asks a woman confidante to alert Sahiban of his arrival. Then he climbs up to her room, brings her down, helps her climb his horse and, with Sahiban clinging to him, gallops away into the night.
It takes a while for Khewa Khan’s household to find out what has happened. Sahiban’s brother, Shamair, accompanied by his other brothers, the bridegroom and others set off on their horses after the runaway couple.
Confident that he had gained sufficient distance and that it would not be easy for his pursuers to catch up with him, Mirza wanted to stop and rest for a while. He was too tired.
Sahiban warns him that her brothers might catch up with them and therefore urges him not to stop. But Mirza boastfully tells her that, first, they won’t be able to catch up with them, and if they did it would take only one arrow to take care of Shamair, and one more to get rid of her betrothed. And that he had sufficient arrows to take care of the whole bunch of Sayyals. So, confident but tired, he lies down under a clump of trees and dozes off while Sahiban keeps a watch.

In the quiet of wilderness Sahiban is assailed with doubts. What if they catch up and kill Mirza? What if Mirza, quick and accurate marksman that he was, kills his brothers? Like a typical Eastern sister, her loyalties seem to be equally divided between her lover and her brother. She doesn’t want either of them to be killed. Somehow she believes, or hopes, that this whole thing could end without bloodshed. So, she quietly takes Mirza’s quiver and hangs it on a branch out of his reach.
Soon there is the drumming sound of hoofs. And in no time the pursuers appear on the scene. Sahiban shakes Mirza out of sleep. Mirza wakes up with a start and reaches for his bow and quiver but doesn’t find the quiver. An arrow from Shamair’s bow pierces Mirza’s throat and he falls to the ground. Another arrow pierces his chest. At that moment Mirza looks accusingly into Sahiban’s eyes and utters those memorable words in the story, somewhat reminiscent of “Et tu, Brute?“
Bura kitoyee Sahiban, mera turkish tangiya jand!
Sahiban, you did a terrible thing by hanging away my quiver!
Sobbing and shaking, Sahiban throws herself over Mirza to cover him from any further hits. Another shower of arrows hits Sahiban. Her body twiches and then lays still.
Thus, both Miraz and Sahiban enter the world of lore and literature.
In Punjabi literature today, just as Ranjha is identified with his flute and Sohni with her unbaked water pitcher (kacha gharra), Mirza has become a metaphor for courage and marksmanship. This is evident in one of Munir Niazi’s poignant poems. When engulfed in a pall of gloom, the poet invokes Ranjha and Mirza in the following lines:
Jattan karo kujh dosto, torro maut da jaal
Pharr murli O Ranjhiya, kadh koi teekhi taan
Maar koi teer O mirziya, khich kay wal asmaanDo something, friends, lift this pall of despair
O Ranjha, take out your flute and play a different tune
O Mirza, shoot an arrow at the sky to pierce this web of gloom
Mast Qalandar describes himself as a dabbler in everything - history, culture, education, poetry, armchair politics and, when sufficiently provoked, religion. He has lived mostly in Karachi, Lahore, Islamabad and Peshawar and also in several nooks and crannies of Pakistan. Currently he divides his time between Islamabad and New York. The story recounted here is based mostly on Piloo’s ballad of Mirza Sahiban as discussed by Professor Hamidullah Hashmi in his book published by Danyal Press, Lahore.



MQ in his inimitable way has once again brought two ill-starred lovers buried in the dust of centuries to vivid life. The path of true love never does run smooth, and as someone has rightly said, men die but sorrow never dies. Instead it becomes the stuff of legend and folklore and romance.
Reading this I was strongly reminded of the story’s similarity with the story of Sir Walter Scott’s Lochinvar:
“So daring in love and so dauntless in war
Have you ever heard of gallant like young Lochinvar”…
“She looked down to blush and she looked up to sigh
With a smile on her lips and a tear in her eye”.
Lochinvar’s story had a happy ending and the lovers escaped (to live happily ever after?); our story ends in tragedy. ‘Our sweetest songs are those that tell of saddest thought’. Perhaps the sub-continetal climate lends itself to dirges.
Be it as it may, it certainly has given full rein to the imagination.
Zia, I also saw an old black and white film version of this story on PTV some years ago. I don’t remember the title or who was acting in it. Does anybody else know?
Very nice!. I have always loved our folk stories. Heer Ranjha, Sohni Mahinwal, Mirza Sahibaan along with Laila Majnoon, Shirin Farhad and Azra Wamiq…all of these had so much about life which you do not understand till you grow up and experience.
As for Mirza Sahiban, there was a song by an Indian singer Gurdaas Maan I found it on youtube.Thought I should put the link here
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bIl8X4e6U3A
Jabir, my grandparents had a love marriage. But many years ago I think young people going into marriage had a better idea of what it entailed. They raised seven children on small means which I think today’s generation would not be willing to do.
I realize this is an almost taboo subject, but frankly many arranged marriages to do not work out either even though the couple may stay together out of some different pressures. I know middle aged people who aren’t speaking to each other and living on different floors of their house. But hey it’s not a divorce, so……
Allow me to illustrate, my grandmother on the other side was widowed young so she married my grandfather’s brother as does happen. So who I grew up calling grandfather was really my great-uncle. Anyway she raised thirteen children in total but the marriage was very miserable from the beginning–in fact her marriage to the first brother was not better also. So here we have everybody doing their duty and following the customs but nobody happy.
If you can find love, then love is the best. I am sorry that some immature young people give love marriages a bad name.
Also a comment on the cousin marriage—in the States in rural areas cousin marriage happened until recently, and was banned not long ago for the reason stated above. Like I said, I know the people who support cousin marriage dispute the medical science behind this decision, which I am not qualified to argue one way or the other, I am just putting the information out there.
I find it very interesting that the author of the poem created a link of “cousinship” (is that a word) in which the lovers were not actually related. Was it to create the tribal conflict or what I don’t know…..perhaps if they were “real” cousins there would not have been barriers to their marriage.
tina you are right about the difference between infatuation and love. But the problem is, the present day consumer driven, cheap media bombarded societies and the resulting junk generations are unfortunate enough to distinguish between true love and infatuation.
A couple of my friends took the path of love marriage. Their marriages are shattered now, nearly all of them. The one or two that survived are nothing short of a nightmare. I think the prices of houses in their neighborhood must have fallen drastically because of their four seasons bickering and fighting’s. My conclusion is, true love manifests from a higher moral standing and sacrificial instincts. Present day lot is nothing less than moths, hopping between nectar laden flowers.
I am glad to hear about the successful marriage between your grandparents, good luck to them. I am curious to know their take on present day situation.
And as far as educational arrangements in 1700 Punjab are concerned, we shall give credit to the ‘openness’ of the maulvi. Though they were children but they were interested more in each other than paying attention to the education.
As a side note, do you know the literacy rate of sub-continent was around 80% before the English abolished the whole system and replaced it with their own? After more than 150 years we have not been able recover from that disaster.
Jabir, marriage between biological first cousins is disallowed in the States, like marriage between brother and sister. However you will notice in the story that the lovers are not biological cousins.
Arranged marriage between first cousins in places like Pakistan is looked down upon by Westerners as being the cause of many inherited medical problems. If you reply please understand that I will not be getting into any discussion about it, pro or con.
I don’t know enough about Punjabi educational arrangements in the 17th century to answer your other questions, but I imagine that in a small town with limited options all students may well have shared a room. If they are all children, why not?
Also the author of the story has to have some way of getting the hero and heroine together.
Psychologists are not talking about love but infatuation. Infatuation lasts such a short time. Love is different. My grandfather after 65 years of marriage to my grandmother said that on the day he met her she was the most beautiful girl in the room and she still was in his eyes. Recently in our locale we had a couple celebrate 80 years of marriage, both are in their 90s and still “in love”.
So the comment of Mirza’s father, that one should avoid being in love to protect oneself is very sad in my opinion. Unfortunately many still do this, don’t they?
A beautiful story, told beautifully! Thanks.
This reminds of a drama series, by ptv in the 1990s. Each time they would take one of the famous folk tales and screen it.
Good post, raises many interesting questions that will be fun to discuss.
-MQ, as you have been to USA, what is their take on cousin marriage? Be honnest.
-Was there co-education in those days? Are you sure? And Maulvi allowed it? You are giving lots of credit here.
-Don’t you feel the young couple took a wrong advantage of the situation? Thus leading to co-ed ban later on?
-Psychologists say ‘love’ does not last more than 3 years. Flats out like shaken cola. Do you agree?
-Was Sahibaan brainwashed by feminsist of her age? Poor soul, couldn’t make right decisions! She should have completed her education first.