The Menace of Dowry

Posted on March 6, 2008
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Irum Sarfaraz

Among the many things that need to be revamped in the mainstream Pakistani society dowry would probably be one of the major ones. Sure no harm in giving the bride gifts on her wedding for her home and personal use but with the growing number of girls start staying unmarried simply because the parents don’t have the money to meet the ‘demands’ of the groom’s family, then it is a quandary that needs to be looked into. The most irksome angle of the dowry situation is that the tradition for an increasingly elaborate dowry is set by the people who don’t even need dowry’s from the girls in order to ‘run their homes’ or ‘support’ the grooms in any way. When the more educated and bourgeoisie class stoops to an all time low, the uneducated ones can only be expected to follow.

Dowry is a massive social ill on both sides of the Pakistan-India border and who hasn’t heard of the infamous bride burning where the girl who brings insufficient dowry is burnt ‘accidentally’ by her in laws so that a new ‘prey’ may be caught who can bring in a better dowry.

Since there is no practice of conducting studies on this issue in Pakistan, the actual dowry related accidents have for the most part gone unrecorded. Shahnaz Bukhari is the founder of the Islamabad-based Progressive Women’s Association and has handled 17,000 cases of women who have been subjected to dowry related violence such as rapes, murders and stove burnings.

It wouldn’t be altogether fair to state that the government has remained oblivious to the disaster this dowry-demanding has caused in the society. Back in the 1970s in an attempt to curb the escalating violence over dowry, Pakistan attempted to make dowry giving or taking entirely illegal. A new law in 1976 set a certain amount of dowry to be permissible where the bridal gifts and marriage expenditure could not exceed 50,000 rupees (about $900). But as was seen in this case, the lack of social responsibility and firmly rooted trends rendered this law practically void.

We don’t need facts and figures to tell us about the havoc dowry is causing for the middle class and lower middle class families. All of us have undoubtedly witnessed distressing cases within our families and the families of our friends, neighbors, cleaning women etc. etc where the good looking and educated girls are unable to get married because they don’t have the dowry to fulfill the demands of the greedy, near-carnivorous grooms. We can write and preach all we want but the practice can never really go away unless we show by action that the educated class not only abhors the tradition but has decided to do away with it for good.

Not only should there be no dowry but it should be announced to everyone present at the wedding by the groom’s family that they are taking the girl home in one suitcase of clothes. If she wishes to bring along her personal stuff such as books and memorabilia, that would not constitute dowry that is currently running into lacs of rupees, with furniture for nearly the entire house, fridges, TV, DVD players, microwaves, cars, motorbikes, linen enough to cover every bed for the next generation, crockery, cutlery and what not. Not to mention the 100 dresses that is the standard now with a ton of gold. And I forgot to mention the gifts that need to be given to the groom’s parents, sisters and brothers. Dowry needs to go and it needs to go from the educated and well off families who are not giving dowries but actually competing in society to make sure no one gives better dowry than them. It has become a status symbol but their little game is ruining the lives of the poorer girls. In the process they are setting a craze that is stirring up hell for the middle class and poorer families who are unable to give so much to their daughters. They are relegated to the fate of watching their daughters get old because they don’t have the money for the dowry to satiate the needs of the grooms who get greedier and greedier by watching this ostentatious display of dowry trends set by the better off in society.


Ironically dowry seems to be a highly stable sociological trend in a country where only 56 percent of the people have access to safe drinking water and only 24 percent has satisfactory sanitation. 91 out of 1000 babies die before their first birthday and doctors and health services are available for only 53 percent of the population. So one might think that the citizenry would have other things on its mind rather than dowry? Hardly so. The leader of the CDHP, Community Health and Development program remarked, ‘We would be lecturing them about the use of oral rehyderation solution for infant diarrhea, when they were worried to death about a husband who was becoming addicted to drugs or how to raise dowries for their daughters’. So what is the solution? Though at this point where the menace has permeated into the very fabric of society it could be anyone’s guess but still the first steps need to come from the upper classes that have been at the forefront setting new and mightier traditions in giving and taking dowries.

I personally don’t think any amount of programs or education will do any good in putting a quietus to dowry unless each person stats assessing the situation for what it is and starts making attempts at the personal level to uproot the menace. Society is not the responsibility of one or two people, human rights lawyers and educators. It is the responsibility of every person who constitutes the society. Unless everyone starts making an effort to recognize the social ills that are eroding basic human values at the roots, little can be done. The question is, are we strong enough to meet the challenge??

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42 Comments on “The Menace of Dowry”

  1. MK says:
    March 6th, 2008 5:58 pm

    It is ironic but rich families indulge in dowry for the very purpose of showing off. They will not give up the evil because it works to their advantage. If this is left to the wishes and attitudes of the people then i don’t think we can uproot the evil. I think you are wrong in asserting that education can not be beneficial in changing the practice or completely uprooting it. I think educating the masses at larger scale is the only reasonable way of gradually getting rid of this evil.
    I would like legislation to this effect but the liberals in you will start talking about the authoritarian feel to that move.

  2. Reluctant Expatriate says:
    March 6th, 2008 8:57 pm

    I like the Egyptian system where the prospective husband has to have a flat and other things before he can get married.

  3. Shahzad says:
    March 6th, 2008 9:21 pm

    I do agree with the author on the seriousness of this issue and it’s potential impact on millions of Pakistani’s and the social fabric of our society.

    However, the main remedy suggested as the cure is to have rich folks spend less. This somehow will have a trickle down effect on the lower and middle classes and they will soon follow suit. Countless studies from diverse organizations and economists such as Amartya Sen have shown that the much hyped trickle down effect does not actually work in economics, it certainly can’t be expected to work here. The mere suggestion to have the wealthy spend less is indicative of extreme left wing/socialist or even communist leanings harbored by the writer. Individuals in a free society should have the right to spend their monies wherever they desire and however they choose. The debate over extravagance is something different all together and should not interfere with the fundamental rights of any person. A lot of you may remember the havoc created in our poultry industry upon introduction of the one-dish policy at weddings. The state certainly has no business dictating what should be served and when and in the process forcing hundreds of businesses under along with the loss of countless jobs. Some of my friends in Pakistan tell me the industry has still not fully recovered.

    On the flip side, this is a serious issue which can be addressed a number of ways.

    First, educating the masses. This can be done right from the beginning with mandatory instruction provided to all students in high schools on the rights and wrongs of dowry and the options available to young women when they find themselves harassed over it soon after getting married. Perhaps this could be included in the curriculum for Pakistan Studies.

    Second, anyone committing criminal offenses over dowry issues should be punished appropriately through swift prosecutions. For those about to laugh out loud considering our notoriously corrupt judicial system, there is a solution. I am no lawyer but I firmly believe that such cases should be brought before special courts perhaps on the district or preferably provincial level and prosecuted by lawyers from the Attorney General’s office. Wishful thinking it may be but with a little political will this should reduce the number of such cases that are dismissed due to the accused having undue influence over local officials. Some will still get away but this would definitely force a majority of the population to think twice before doing something stupid.

    Third, feminist readers may find this hard to swallow but I will say it anyway. To an average Joe like me a large part of the hoopla created over dowry seems to come from the hypocritical attitudes of women in our society. Mums expect their daughters to be treated like princesses when they are married off and yet make life living hell for the poor souls married to their sons who were never taught to respect women by them. Granted there are exceptions to this but they seem to be a small minority. This has been passing through generations and the once victimized daughter has no shame in behaving the same way in 20/30 years. How this ailment can be cured if at all is beyond me, perhaps sociologists can offer some good ideas. Long term though, I believe changing how our women think may be the the only solution.

  4. syed ali raza says:
    March 6th, 2008 9:31 pm

    i am sorry mod, but i have to ask how can one be a “Reluctant Expatriate” i really do. as far as dowry goes, i don’t know may be it is the primitive cultural practice difficult to break free from, i am not sure how any one can break free from it

  5. Irum Sarfaraz says:
    March 6th, 2008 11:54 pm

    We can only break free from it IF we believe it to be a heinous social ill that needs to be broken out of. If we accept it and indulge in it personally i.e taking dowries when our sons get married and giving extravagent dowries when our daughters get married, then we can expect to be entangled in this mess for another one thousand years. While the world figures out how to land on the next planet, we’ll still be figuring out how to pay for that lavish wedding we threw just to impress the neighbors….

  6. Usman Butt says:
    March 7th, 2008 2:12 am

    When we say dowry is a social evil, we are barely analyzing the superficial level of things. Dowry system even tough has many flaws but importantly the bigger flaw is in our culture of “follow the crowd”. We are indulged in an never ending race to show off. In this futile effort we have forgotten the true sense of dowry.
    This used to be the kick start of most of the newly wed couples so that they don’t have to spend ages in getting a home/room of their own. Now it has become something else. The rich can do whatever they want with their money, but the middle class always feels the crunch of it all.
    Most of the people will not eradicate this custom even if they got the chance, because of the Cultural Repercussions. The problem lies in our society, being far from our own true cultural values. The muslim way of life is much more than what we have become. So we should look into our mentalities and our customs with a very broad look.

  7. Nimi says:
    March 7th, 2008 7:13 am

    I liked some ideas given on the question of dowry by the great Edhi in his book “a mirror to the blind”. While addressing a group of college girls and boys, he asked them to choose each other independently and to get married simply amongst them and to divorce easily if it does not work while the women keep the children and the guys pay for it.

    Please don’t take it on words strictly. What I would like to say here is that many ills like dowry shall vanish when young people would strive to get some more personal freedom, more independence from societal grips and of course more personal responsibilities.

  8. BelligerentPacifist says:
    March 7th, 2008 7:58 am

    Culture needs to be done away with. How I don’t know. But people should learn to choose on merit rather than on precedent. Most Pakistanis are muslims and ain’t this what Islam tells us?

  9. Anwar says:
    March 7th, 2008 8:26 am

    As long as the older generation maintains control on the younger generation and likewise as long as our educated young people prefer nesting over indpendence these problems are not going to go away.
    After witnessing truck loads of dowery of my sisters, I made up my mind – stuck to it, paid the price, and now I am happy I shunned the primitive minds who eventually saw the wisdom in my actions. I am free. By the way I come from a very educated well to do family so the education really is not the solution – in many ways it is the educated elite who set the course for the rest to follow.

  10. March 7th, 2008 10:14 am

    My personal experience is the elderly women of the tribe push for dowry. They need to change the thinking.

  11. Irum Sarfaraz says:
    March 7th, 2008 10:22 am

    Most of the respondents so far are male. So tell me, how many of you married your wife by strictly telling her family ‘I will not accept any dowry at all in an attempt to end the tradition’ ?

  12. Omer says:
    March 7th, 2008 1:02 pm

    Very nice post. Thank you for reflecting on such contradictions of our society.

    I would like to add another dimension to this debate i.e, even if the groom insist on having no dowry, the parents of the girl try to give dowry just to avoid any future problem for their girl. So their is a dimension of mistrust over here as well.

    Secondly, I do not think adopting the Egyptian system would solve any problem because when it comes to getting married, guys face a lot of problems as well. Although, the problems faced by girls are by far much more than those faced by guys.

    I think that someone (or the author herself) should reflect from a guys point of view as well that how difficult it is for them to marry the “daddy’s little princes”. The difficulties increases exponentially if the daddy is a real big shot ;)

    The complexities of this issue are not limited to dowry; our entire marriage ceremony is full of silly rituals. The most troublesome part is that these ritual are not fun for anyone and especially not fun for the bride or the groom.

  13. SJH says:
    March 7th, 2008 9:41 pm

    This might be an issue that religious leaders can take on as a long term educational mission. I do not claim to be an expert on this issue but I suspect the issue is with educating men to expect more than simply a rich dowry when they marry. I like the idea in the US of a “wedding registry”, where the bride and groom get a number of useful things and guests can purchase those items for them (or share in the purchase of such items).

  14. Rita says:
    March 8th, 2008 1:10 am

    For many years activists is India have fought the dowry menace. The govt too did its bit by bringing in laws. Nothing worked. Finally women activists discovered the reason-property rights. Girls frankly said, all we get is dowry, property rights go to the sons if you ban dowry we don’t get this either.
    Even the dowry is mostly given to the girls’ in-laws.

  15. Dee[pak says:
    March 8th, 2008 2:37 am

    I read and have viewed these articles in various magzines/papers/media a number of times,for knowing someway to prevent this menace but unfortunately various steps taken by the Govt. does not yield results.Infact, it has gone to the extent of people highly educated/non educated getting the female child aborted to avoid this dowry menace.In certain places in India,in certain states, the female population has come down so drastically that the parents have to seek girls from other states to marry their sons eventhough the customs and the language of the spouse may be widely different and bear no resamblance.
    I was surprised to note that this dowry system is prevalent in Pakistan also.
    People have to understand or be made to understand that the girl is a partner and not just an object for gratification.
    I really hope the mindset changes for betterment.

  16. March 8th, 2008 3:49 am

    There is no harm in dowry as it is a gift by the parents of the bride. But if a demand list is produced by the bridegroom side than the marriage must not be commenced at all. The marriage must only take place if the bridegroom is contented to accept the girl with or without dowry.

  17. March 8th, 2008 4:52 am

    I found this and other articles by you of interest. However, I dit not find any way of contacting you, thus this comment. Kindly get in touch with me at your earliest convenience.

    -Faisal Qureshi

  18. Nimi says:
    March 8th, 2008 5:48 am

    Hi there!

    Quoting Iram Sarfraz’s question,

    “So tell me, how many of you married your wife by strictly telling her family

  19. Irum Sarfaraz says:
    March 8th, 2008 12:03 pm

    Faisal Qureshi:
    You can get in touch with me through the editors at ATP who will forward me your mail.
    Thanks.

  20. Tina says:
    March 8th, 2008 8:29 pm

    Christian countries in the past also had the notion that a daughter was a burden; when arranged marriages were the norm there, unloading the daughters was an expensive ritual that meant many women were told to become nuns or they were “kept back” to work as housekeepers for their elderly parents (many English novels have this “old maid” character).

    Only women’s emancipation and the end of arranged marriage customs ended this cruelty towards women.

    I’m afraid that only when young people choose their own spouses will the dowry trouble go by the wayside. This means that the cultural changes will have to go much deeper than some here are imagining.

  21. Nimi says:
    March 10th, 2008 4:54 am

    To Tina,

    100% right. There does not seem to be any another way out.

    Analysing the root causes, there’s another thing that comes to my mind. I wonder if you agree.

    Arranged marriages in Pakistan or in India help another bigger cause i.e. serving one’s parents in their old age. Having no or little pensions and no permanent place to live, often parents consider that if they arrange their son’s marriage in the light of their own old age agenda, only then they shall have a control on their daughter-in-law.

    They want that the man to woman relationship passes through them. They are afraid of the fact that a “love marriage” shall make the couple too strong to be subservient to them. Or the guy shall be too obedient to his wife to listen to his parents. Or worse, he would be subservient to girls’ parents, beause his wife shall control him.

    Young people must help their parents in their old age but at the same time they must not let them intervene in their relationship. This requires an understanding between the two partners.

  22. Tina says:
    March 10th, 2008 8:25 am

    Hi Nimi,

    I think you are 100% right and this is something I have observed in my own family, in which sons stay home and the mother-in-law likes her sons’ wives to be a certain way (not very assertive :))

    Personally, I think everyone living together can work out. I don’t see anything wrong with joint families. But there has to be a balance and respect for everyone in the household as equals. And how often does that happen?

    Here’s another thought that I don’t see people talking about–I think it’s possible that arranged marriages appeared to work out better in the past because the couple married when very young–like in their early teens. They basically grew up together.

    Nowadays, parents expect to fix the marriages of of men and women as late as their late twenties or early thirties, after years of college and sometimes several years living abroad. Whether Pakistani parents think so or not, these young people have already experienced relationships and had boyfriends/girlfriends–sometimes they have to break off the illicit relationship for the wedding (making the wedding a joyful moment, yes? Sitting there in love with someone else–lately a popular Bollywood plot). These boys and girls have an idea of what they like in a partner, and are very likely to find the parent-approved spouse lacking in many respects (their parents’ interests are not, after all, their own).

    So if parents want to have arranged marriage for their children, I would encourage them to marry their kids before they are fifteen-years old. This is the way it works best. If the parents are sitting there picking out a bride for their twenty-five year old son, they might as well know it–he IS involved with somebody else at that age.

    This is something that I think is swept under the carpet when discussing this topic. Parents like to ignore this and marry their children according to their own wishes later and later in life. It makes for a lot of unhappiness.

  23. Irum Sarfaraz says:
    March 10th, 2008 9:47 am

    I think the discussion of arranged marriages is a completely different one and has little relevance, in my opinion, on the issues of dowry. Dowry should not be taken or given whether the marriage is arranged or love. For instance, even if the bride and groom are getting married by choice of each other, wouldn’t the parents of the bride still be giving dowry to show off and wouldn’t the parents of the groom still be expecting to recieve it because that it will make their ‘pagri oonchee’ ? So how does an arranged marriage do anything towards helping to uproot the menace from the society so that less off families are not bound by cultural and societal tradition to do the same?

  24. Tina says:
    March 10th, 2008 10:52 am

    Irum,

    you are right, they are two different topics in a way, but in another way they are bound together. Parents will shop for who has the best dowry and so on. When two people know and value one another and marry for love, you are marrying to get the person and not all the property of her parents that you can wring out of them. That’s why I say the dowry curse is tied to the culture of arranged marriages. It’s controversial to say so, I know that.

    There’s a difference between show-off marriages–even people in the West do that–and turning marriage into a sterile business contract, the parents shopping around for good family connections, sometimes employment opportunities for their sons, sometimes green cards, and a huge dowry on top of all. How can the young people not suffer under such a system?

    It’s also tied to the emancipation of women; arranged marriage in Europe died with the advent of women’s rights as led by the suffragists. Free women, it turns out, want to exercise personal choice in their relationships. Something to think about there, too.

  25. Irum Sarfaraz says:
    March 10th, 2008 11:16 am

    Ah…! Free woman….
    Is there anything like a free woman?? In any society? A good debate there….!

  26. Tina says:
    March 10th, 2008 2:29 pm

    Irum–good question!

  27. Timur says:
    March 11th, 2008 4:20 am

    A total Hindu tradition ingrained in our people,we still cannot break free as most of us are egoistic

  28. March 11th, 2008 4:33 pm

    Dowry is a Hindu tradition that got adopted as an Indian subcontinent culture years ago. I do believe education is the only way out of any darkness in the society. Technology advancement is another one, if it wasn’t for the e-mail I would’t have read this article and talk about it to my friends… Thats exactly how awareness develops! Great article!

  29. Esra Tasneem A says:
    March 13th, 2008 8:11 am

    I may be late in my comments to this article for a much needed awareness on a social evil , but I still feel I need to say it , having read all the earlier comments & unique perspectives on it .
    I just want to say this : Anything EXPECTED or DEMANDED can be considered to be HARAM .
    If we as Muslims can learn to live by what is Halal & what is Haram , then I think any social evil & not just the dowry , could very well get eradicated .
    We need to be our own educaters , our own teachers to our ownselves , questioning our own conscience , applying our Islamic teachings to our daily lives & to our lives dictated by society . If we listen to our own conscience sincerely , we will know to differenciate between Halal & Haram in everything that Life holds for us . That way it becomes easier to do the right thing , to choose Halal in all we do & not in just what we eat .
    “Expectations” can be one’s own worst enemy . “Demanding” anything from anyone is no less than begging .
    These are my humble views .

  30. Khawar says:
    March 20th, 2008 3:06 am

    I really appreciate you IRUM that someone has the guts to write on all these issues which are being unnoticed for th centuries.
    These all Dowry comes from Hindu Tradition and Culture.
    In ISLAM, Dowry is a curse.
    We can easily see from the history of Islam.
    Insha Allah, a day came when we finally get away from this curse.

  31. May 12th, 2008 1:48 am

    To give a wisest suggestion to Pakistan society, people should give high education whether rich or poor parents to their daughters so that the groom family should be less dominate while pressurizing on the bride families. The bride parents should be given very strict suggestion that it is needless to give dowry by their own wish and will because things don

  32. Aisha says:
    May 14th, 2008 10:54 pm

    Great article and I am happy to see it addressed. What are the odds that anything will be done to stop the demands for the Menacing Dowry?? As we are seeing a dramatic decrease in cousingenious arranged (forced) marriages in lieu of personal choice and a dramatic increase in divorces from arranged marriages, the menacing dowry will be the next primitive culture behavior to end. It’s a slow process and we can still expect the villagers to follow suit at a slower pace. The more worldy knowledgable pakistani people (primarily men sent abroad) become the more obvious it becomes to them that these old time cultural practices are not only unnecessary but they are wrong. At this point, those continuing are only doing so out of respect for their pressuring parents but we can be sure that for the children being born today and tomorrow that their parents will not put such pressure and demands on them. Ah, yes, times are a changing.

    The Dowry is such a show of disrespect for women and exhibits how truly unvalued as human beings that they are. What family in their right mind would think so little of their daughter’s value that they would pay for someone to take her. Why the need to buy a husband for your daughter??? What an insult to women that her husband is only her husband because his family was paid enough in “STUD” fees!! Indeed, she will bear him children, raise and care for those children, she will cook and clean for him, and make herself readily available to meet his needs while suppressing her own needs…in her lifetime she will pay more than enough for her upkeep. If anything a man should pay a dowry to marry a pious, beautiful, chaste wife (as they are becoming more and more rare even in the villages)…but lets not forget she is nothing more than property, right?

    As is the perception of Pakistani men living here in the USA, finding a wife in Pakistan is easy because everyone is begging for someone to marry their daughter…Highest bidder gets the husband and hopefully has paid enough to him and his family that she will not be mistreated. Dowry is big business for the men and their families so naturally they don’t want it to end…unless they happen to be a family with a lot of daughters. Paying a large dowry for a man/husband does not insure that he will be a good husband or father…as he can do with his property as he choices. No wonder the births of daughters are so undesired…as her birth represents immediate long term debt to her father and brothers.

  33. hassaan says:
    November 4th, 2008 3:41 pm

    I think this article is based on truth. it is a menace in pakistan and india. But we should give some dowry because it is a sunat of Hazrat muhammad (P.B.U.H).He give her daughter a little dowry not alot if he want to give dowry we know there iss no thing which iss not in access to him.So i think we give our doughter and sister dowry with in a limits. (this is my oppinion your opinion should unmatched with my opinion ). thanks

  34. nehakhan says:
    December 28th, 2008 11:47 am

    due to dowry families may suffer financial hardships due to the expensive nature of dowries . they may not be able to afford dowries ,therefore prohibiting their children from marriages ,causing girls to occasionally commit suicide in order to rid their fathers of financial burdens

  35. March 16th, 2009 3:19 pm

    Thank you for a well written and honest depiction. Maybe we need to create a movement where we allow our children (the couple) to reach an honest understanding of whether or not a dowry will help or hinder their future relationship. If we have better communication and togetherness from the bride & groom, where both parties, especially the parents, become informal with each other, the dowry amount & number of gifts will be less important than the focal point – the newly married couple!
    Through better family connection where the bride and groom are allowed to lead their own wedding instead of being ordered to passively do as they are told. Just look at the bride…they are always expected to keep their heads down and stay quiet. Once we as a society allow the bride to enjoy their special day we can lower the expectations of a dowry.
    Yasmin

  36. YASMA says:
    April 7th, 2009 8:51 pm

    We need to get rid of social ills like this at teh same time as these crazy Taliban

  37. Ali Rauf says:
    May 19th, 2009 12:12 pm

    according to my point of view. i am agree dowry is a curse.if we looked back into the past it was cleared how simply the Holy Prophet(SAW) married his daughter Hazrat Fatima(RA) to Hazrat Ali(RA). how simple sacred and holy the ceremony.
    If we read the islamic history it was also cleared the groom had sold his armour to purchase some essential for daily use.like a prayer mat,a sleeping mat,and a pair of clothes for the bride. the Hazrat Muhammed (SAW) entertained his guests with dates and milk.
    Muslims should spend their money for the benefit of the poors and needy.if all the muslims followed the model presented by the Holy Prophet and spent their wealth in doing good to the cause of hummanity and Islam this land could progress and prosper well.

  38. August 22nd, 2009 4:02 am

    according to my point of views dowery should be stopped .

  39. November 7th, 2009 5:21 am

    I just read the post Halal-oween and saw the comments that created a huge fuss. However, no such thing to be witnessed here. Why? Is halloween a bigger sin than accepting dowry? How many of us have said NO to dowry? My question is aimed specifically at the (so-called) religious people of today.

    Do we have any idea how many women are killed in the name of dowry? How many abused verbally and physically? If there is anything worth showing disgust at, then that is dowry.

    Thank you Irum for this post.

  40. Baber says:
    December 22nd, 2009 12:40 am

    Another very good written article on Dowry : http://builtin.org/articles/dowry-reasons-causes

  41. January 17th, 2010 12:21 pm

    the writer has done a beautiful job by taking down such a thought provoking article. no doubt the dowry system is one of the biggest problem of our rural as well as hurban society. there is yet another broblem which needs to highlighted by the print and electronic media that is the problem of WALWAR that is rampant in pashtun belt of balochistan. that really play havoc with the life of groom in which the groom is asked to a fixed amount to get his bride merried.

  42. Watan Aziz says:
    September 8th, 2010 12:31 am

    Another stumble worth mentioning, “Dunia Walon Jahez Ki Lanat” performed by one and only Madam and acted by Shabnum.

    Awesome.

    I think this might be the first song with a “feminist” theme, for a woman, by a woman.

    Good song, good acting. Great message.

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