Few things bint-e-hawwa has to bear

Posted on October 23, 2007
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by JayJay

The life of a Pakistani woman is not easy. It is not a hidden fact that she is subjected to discrimination and harassment, within and without the so-called sanctuary of her home. However, harassment and bullying becomes more intense and blatant when she steps out of her home for work or education. From catcalls to verbal innuendo to physical harassment, she has to endure it all, mostly at the hands of strangers, on the streets and on public transport. This harassment does not stop, or rather become more palpable in many cases, at her place of work. The act of harassing women, with sexual tones and motives, by fellow employees or supervisors/managers is referred to sexual harassment. Wikipedia defines sexual harassment as:

Harassment or unwelcome attention of a sexual nature. It includes a range of behavior from mild transgressions and annoyances to serious abuses, which can even involve forced sexual activity. Sexual harassment is considered a form of illegal discrimination in many countries, and is a form of abuse (sexual and psychological) and bullying.

An editorial from The News on October 1 has summed up the issue well, by pointing out to the absence of appropriate legislation to deal with this growing phenomenon. Offering some the broad suggestions, the editorial reads:

As a first step, the government and the private sector should join hands to start a campaign in which sexual harassment in the workplace is defined. This will make working women understand what is acceptable and what is not acceptable behavior in a workplace. The second step in this national exercise would be to ask employers to put into place a proper policy that defines sexual harassment and clearly spells out what action is to be taken against someone found guilty of it. In addition to this, employers need to have a mechanism which enables any employee subjected to such harassment to approach an appropriate forum for filing a complaint. The complaint should be treated confidentially and investigated, and if guilty the offender should be punished according to the employer’s code of ethics for employees. Of course, given that many companies have an environment which is more or less male-dominated and where men are in most decision-making senior roles, it may be a bit much to expect that things will change overnight. However, to do nothing would also be a sign that we as a nation are not willing to evolve and provide justice to those who are victims of this menace.

The menace of sexual harassment at the place of work has been comprehensively and effectively addressed by the West where workplaces are no longer the sole domain of men. Pakistan has a lot to catch up on this matter, and quickly so, as more and more women are entering workforce. It makes economic sense both for employers and the government to have an effective and clear legislation and corporate policies to protect women against harassment. Not only skills and talent of education women can be brought to use more effectively by attracting them in a safe workplace but it has been seen worldwide that presence of women in offices helps boost productivity, besides infusing fresh ideas and way of thinking.

While enacting a piece of legislation and formulating policies is most critical step, a concerted awareness campaign is necessary to influence general attitudes and social behaviors. Without bringing about change to prevalent perception of working women in Pakistan, there is little chance of success in overcoming the problem of sexual harassment. The fact of matter is that most women in Pakistan brave into men-dominated workplaces out of economic necessity, rather than to fulfill career aspirations. The position of women in workplace in Europe, North American and even South East Asia has become entrenched, still it is not odd to come across a public service announcement to press the message on the issue. Such public service announcements are even more necessary in a society like Pakistan where we leg behind even comparable countries in accepting the role of women at work.

99 responses to “Few things bint-e-hawwa has to bear”

  1. Tipu Sultan says:

    i agree and Ibrahim and Human… for their worth reading posts ……

    i am so glad .. cant write any words … thanks to both of you…

    Allah aapko dunya aur aakhirat main kaamyaab karay …

  2. Ibrahim says:

    Salamalikum

    Why is there so much disagreement? Human, others and I am saying the similar thing as you peopl are: We need to edcuate and implement laws. Is it possible that the real problem is with the word Islam or Islamic that is accompanying Human’s call for education?

    The verse quoted by Human is the perfect response. Sister Tina, I don’t know what neigborhoods you lived in the West but I believe it a common knowledge that women are hit up all the time anywhere not just the bars, etc. And, how dress is linked with how much you are looked at. I don’t care what happens or doesn’t happen in the West. The point is fahashi on the part of both sexes is the problem. While everyone should be wearing modestly, everyone needs to lower their gaze as well. So, if a woman is teased or abused even though she’s modestly dressed means that the man is not modest and is not lowering his gaze and the blame is on him and not the woman. So, it doesn’t absolve woman or man to wear whatever they want just because they are going to be hit up anyways.

    Hence, it comes down to us needing Islamic education (no other education tells you to lower your gaze explicitly and other things). Sister Qandeel thinks the point people are making is that MTV, etc. is the real issue. No, it is one reason and not having taqwa/zuhud/knowledge of Islam is the other, and there are others. I wonder how she picked this fahashi reference but completely missed my point about taqwa, etc.

    So, again, it comes down to: Tawqa/Isalm (knowledge/education); implementing laws (Islamic laws are enough); curtailing sources of fitna and marrying early but with maturity. Nobody denies people have desires, but we are told by Allah and His rasool to tackle this problem by having fear of Allah and marrying or if one can’t, then fasting. It’s all in the heart…we need education that instills taqwa in us! This is it…no more comments by me on this issue.

  3. Tina says:

    Salaam Human,

    you didn’t answer my question.

    I too live in the West, but I am a woman so more qualified to be a judge of the situation.

    Please explain if modest dress “prevents” these problems than why is the problem so extreme in Pakistan?

    Also may I point out that these Western men did not want to marry these burqa clad women and start a sweet family. They were talking about something, um, much more temporary. Like you know, a few minutes. Are you saying this is good?

    You missed the point entirely.

  4. Human says:

    Tina

    I live in the west… I know what I’m talking about and I don’t agree with you…

    All men are not alike… there are good and bad people everywhere in all societies with all kinds of beliefs… even in Pakistan, a country that seemed to have all the problems according to you…

    A modest and good man will always want a modest and a good woman.. it tells you something about the western men you were talking about… and it is a universal truth…

    Corrupt women are for corrupt men and corrupt men are for corrupt women, Good women are for good men and good men are for good women. The latter are innocent of what they say. They will have forgiveness and generous provision. (Qur’an, 24:26)

    You need to open your eyes and mind and think. West always create a problem and then find a solution for it; in Islam problems are prevented…

  5. Tina says:

    Human considers it a “manly action” to sexually attack unknown women on the street.

    Very good.

    How do the other men here feel about that statement?

    Let’s take a quick poll. How many of you think its “manly” to treat women that way?

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