Some Pakistani television channels seem to find this picture ‘cute’ and a great ‘human interest story.’ I happen to think it is disgusting! What do you think?
Please, please, please tell me you also find this more than just objectionable and restore by faith in Pakistani sanity!
The guy in the picture is 23-year old Azhar Haidri of Multan. On his right is Humaira Qasim (his 28-year old cousin that he has long been engaged to marry) and on his left is Rumana Aslam (his 21-year old other cousin who he says is his ‘true love’). He married both of them within 24-hours on October 19 and 20 in what was supposed to be his ‘dillema’ of who he should marry!
The whole thing has been a TV spectacle this last week. But what is really a spectacle to me is TV news anchors and hosts smiling and smirking as they “report” on this story – complete with “news footage” of the two weddings and interviews with the groom – as if this was one big joke!
As far as I am concerned, ruining two lives in this way is no joke. It is disgusting. And the smirks on these news anchors’ faces makes it even more disgusting.
And just when you thought it could not be any more disgusting than it is, there was the groom on my screen today being interviewed and saying that since he is the only brother of 9 sisters, he would appeal to people to please support him financially so that he can marry off his sisters now!
Yes, that is what he said. You know what else he said, he also said that since he comes from a place near the Prime Minister’s city he hopes that the Prime Minister will provide him with resources and support for his “honeymoon.”
And all of this is a “cute” “human interest story” to our news media!
I understand that every society has its share of freaks and publicity hungry psychopaths. But the real freaks here are the TV news anchors who are not only encouraging this psychopath but actually condoning and tactically supporting his behavior.
Very glad that this post was put up. It again shows just how divided we are in various ways. There are people commenting here who are living on totally different planets and who seem to expect totally different norms of behavior and then justify them in wierd ways. Also, it is always frightening to me just how easily people misuse religious to justify their most henious desires. Suddenly everyone is an alim of Islam to defend this guys gandi zehniyat. And at the same time those who make a business out of maligning Islam and Pakistan use this one incident to write off an entire religion and people. Both groups forget that what this is is one sick guy doing one sick act and other sick minds living vicariously through him and abusing religion to defend their own twisted fantasies.
This blog is becoming stranger and stranger every day…it used to be sensible, but now I see more and more authors like you pushing your own personal biases and agendas down people’s throats.
Maybe this guy is not a model Muslim and I dont know his personal story, but if you are using this story to say that polygamy is disgusting then you are an idiot who doesn’t know the history of Islam.
You are calling the practice of many Companions of the prophet and Mohammed’s (PEACE BE UPON HIM) choices in life digusting.
Polygamy is respectful and it is hard, and it is hard to maintain and be fair and do it the right way – and it has very huge responsibilities – the man who is not fair between his wives will walk lopsided on the day of resurrection – it is a huge burden on this man in this world.
So I dont knwo about this guy- maybe he is making it a joke or using it for personal gain or publicity, but using this to make some kind of point against something ordained by Allah is a big mistake.
I am sorry you chose to post this.
I am not interested in topics reserved for tabloid. not a good post for this blog.
One more point after reading comments.
According to Islam, Ménage à trois (commonly called threesome) has no relation with multiple marriages.
Each bride or wife has her own bedroom and complete privacy with her husband. It is media, who is showing this kind of pictures to give this impression without saying it.
I read other comments and found ppl discussing our Prophet’s (SAW) marriage to a 7 year old.
Please read about Prophet’s (SAW) marriages and then comment. He (SAW) married at the age of 25 to Khadija (RA) when she was 40 and till she lived our Prophet did not marry any other women. After the age of 50+ he got more marriages. If you study the society and culture of that time, marrying a women of a tribe was to become respectable for that tribe. The enmity of the tribe minimized/ended after our Prophet (SAW) married a women of that tribe. This was much helpful for making enemies as friends.
Probably for these reasons according to conditions at that time, our Prophet was allowed to have more than 4 wives (max limit for a Muslim man is 4 at a time).
As far as Ayesha (RA) is concerned, the nikah was done when she was 7 or so but Rukhsati was made 2-3 years later as I remember from history. Her marriage is so far a great blessing for the Ummah as most of the Hadiths regarding our Prophet’s life at home is narrated by her.
Allah guide us all and forgive our mistakes.