Adil Najam
Sometimes one is left completely speechless. And I was upon seeing this picture in the Daily Times (21 April) of a man beating his wife as their son looks on.
But the real story here is about a society that chooses to loose its speech and prefers to remain silent in the face of a wide scale menace of acute domestic violence and spousal (and familial) abuse of women.
This is not something that is restricted only to the poorest classes. Although it is often hidden behind ’sufaid poshi’ such violence against women is more common in our society than most of us would care to accept. Remember, for example, the case of former Pakistan cricket captain Moin Khan who was taken in custody after beating his wife while drunk.
I wonder what the child in this photograph will grow up thinking. I wonder how many children have grown up witnessing such scenes. I wonder what such emotional scars have done to them.
It is indeed true that such incidents of violence happen all over the world. There is no evidence at all that they happen more in Pakistan than elsewhere. In terms of reported cases they may be even less. But that is not the point. This is not a competition.
Saying that it happens everywhere or that it happens even more in other places is neither an excuse nor a consolation. One case would, in my opinion, be one too many. And there are clearly much more than one. As Pakistanis - no, as human beings - we must speak against such violence everywhere; but, first within our own society.
The solution is education
For the unparh and for the parha likha unparh also
If we just reflected on this picture rather than waste time commenting and picking fights we might learn something. Thoughtprovoking picture.
“is hamam mey hum sub nangay hain”
So we shouldn’t do anything about it… we shouldn’t try and clothe ourselves. We should start by asking ourselves some serious questions…
yaaro, kissi cheez ko tu choR d
If this happens it will be good… but I think attitudes here are too hard… khuda khair karey
I think if this law is passed it will be a good thing.
At least it will be a deterrant for some
MQ sahab aap jaise jalil-ul-qadar shakhsiat hamesha mere dil k qareeb rahti hain.
You missed the point. Saif that my recommendation were offensive and in reply i referred one of your reply to me. Only God knows or YOU that whether you were offending me at that time or not but I didn’t consider it offensive. I remember I in return asked that whether you were author of the book but then you got busy in your ‘qalanderiat’ and didn’t get time to reply me back.
Mohtram Adnan Siddiqui Sahib,
Yad aavri ka shukriyah! But I don’t remember recommending any course to you or to anyone else on secularism — not that I can remember. But if did recommend something and you seriously followed my recommendation, as you say you did, then I take it as a compliment.
[quote post=”667″]in an offensive manner, that they should take a course in History 101 or Religion 101 or Something Else 101.[/quote]
:-)- actually I learnt this technique from our vetran commenter Mast Qalander[MQ] who several times advised me to take course of secularism101 *grin*
[quote post=”667″]1. Etiquette 001 and[/quote]
I could if this course would have brought some positive changes in you. after experiencing you, it seems that course was not properly designed and had lots of loopholes.
[quote post=”667″]2. English 101[/quote]
English is Not my first language so I have no complex at all.
By the way saif mian, I must praise your hypocrisy. At one side you are pointing out my “offensive” manner while you yourself demonstrating same by advising me to take “english” course- Bravo my friend!