Adil Najam
If this was not so horrific and heart wrenching as it is, one could go on and on about the pangs of love and all the poetry about how lovers have to be ready to bear the pain that society would inflict upon them. But because this is as sad a story as it is, all I can think of is “cheeti doRReiN way tabeeba…” (come fast, my doctor).
This is a painful story. So, if you are weak of stomach, stop reading. This is not a story about religion or about custom or about culture. It is a story about jahaalat… nirri jahalat. The roots of this are exactly the same as the roots of our earlier post about how Shagufta got killed.
According to the Daily Times (4 January, 2006):
Armed men cut off the ears and nose of a man who married a woman from their tribe against their will, after he and his family refused to hand her over, police said on Wednesday. The attackers also chopped off the ears of the man’s brother, while severing his mother’s hand in the latest reported “honourâà ƒÂ¢Ã¢â‚¬Å¡Ã‚¬Ã‚? crime in the country’s conservative rural areas.
Mohammad Iqbal’s wife, Shehnaz, was not at home when about 15-armed members of her clan carried out the attack in Multan on Tuesday, demanding that she be returned to them. “The assailants, who were armed with
small arms, daggers and axes, tortured Iqbal and cut off his ears and nose when he refused to produce Shenhaz,� Naeem-ul-Hassan, a deputy superintendent of police, told Reuters, adding that five suspects had so far been arrested. “They dragged us on the floor and thrashed us before cutting our limbs,� Mohammad Yasin, Iqbal’s brother, told Reuters from Nishtar hospital, where he was being treated along with his brother and mother. Shehnaz married Iqbal out of choice last year and the couple left Multan along with Iqbal’s family apparently for fear of reprisals from Shehnaz’s relatives. The family returned to Multan recently to celebrate Eidul Azha.
This is not something that happens every day. But it is something that happens far more often than it should. It is a story that needs to be told and needs to be condemned. The untold part of this story is that all too often we just keep quiet about such stories. We tell ourselves: “well its just an aberration; this is not the norm,” or that “such things happen everywhere, its not just us,” or “if we repeat this story to others it will give all of us a bad name and our ‘enemies’ will make it look as if all of us are like this,” and, ultimately, the hope is that “if we just keep quiet, the story will just go away.”
Well, I have news for you. It does NOT go away. It keeps on happening. Our silence only fuels it, because the criminals confuse the silence for consent.
It is not without reason that Faiz Sahib said:
Bol, keh labb aazad haiN tairay
Bol, zabaan abb tak tairi hai
It’s too heart wrenching that such a young and nice guy had to go through with it. I hope he and his family find peace somewhere and authorities punish the criminals severely.
I am also appalled. The only thing worse than not doing anything is not even saying anything. At the very least we must condemn this. I think the sentiment in teh post is the correct one, if enough people speak we will at least make a nuisiunce of ourselves and the authorities will be forced to do something. If we just change the topic because this is uncomfortable then we assist the culprits with our silence.
The only good thing here is that the press is beginning to highlight such things. That is a good start.
My feelings after reading about the incidence, utterly enraged and appalled but not surprised even one bit, and I am sure that was the feeling of the majority of the people who read this. Something wrong with the picture right there.
We should strongly condemn such acts of violence and what you said neri jahallat. I wonder what would happen to these criminals? It tells alot about our society and sometimes it seems to me that the religion which is practiced in our society, the values, the norms, the ethics, the culture and ‘everything’ revolves around ‘aurat(women)’….if you know what I mean.
Unfortunate, but then this is what the society is – issues like these will keep popping up all the time. Perfection can never be achieved unfortunately and we are far form it to begin with.
On a lighter note, somewhat semi-related for the other end, this New York article was delightfully humorous and yet very balanced. Give it a read…
When She Speaks, He’s Breaking All of Islam’s Taboos