Adil Najam
Back in July, ATP had posted a picture of former world squash champion Jansher Khan being hauled away in a police van on charges of trespass and violent attack on a woman. Now, Moin Khan, former cricket captain and wicketkeeper, has joined Jansher in the Hall of Disgrace for beating his wife.
Shame on you, both of you. You may once have been stars. You are stars no more. And, Moin, even if you have been freed on bail, that does not absolve you in our eyes for maltreating your wife. No Sir. This is not a private matter between man and wife. This is a matter of national disgrace. But my anger at this incident is making me run ahead of the story.
So, first the news as reported in the Daily Times (17 January, 2006):
KARACHI: Former Pakistan captain Moin Khan was arrested by the Darakhshan police late Monday night after his wife Tasleem alias Shama Seher made a phone call to Madadgar 15, complaining that he had beaten her.
According to Town Police Officer (TPO) ASP Azad Khan, the police received a phone call from Seher after midnight. A police team visiting the house found Seher standing outside and Moin Khan screaming at her from within. After a struggle, Moin Khan was taken in preventive detention under Section 151 of the CrPC, the TPO said. The couple was taken to the Darakhshan police station from where Moin was taken to JPMC for a medical examination. Seher was also taken to JPMC for a medical examination later on.
“If injuries are reported by the doctors examining her or a blood test confirms that he was intoxicated, the law will take its course,” said the TPO. Darakhshan SHO Inspector Zia Rizvi told Daily Times that this was a domestic matter, “but we brought it on to the court record”. Moin was produced in a local court and was granted bail. Seher told Daily Times that Moin had been disturbed for three days. “This isn’t something new, its been like this for a while,” she added. “He accused me of being involved with his friends. I asked why he was beating me and he told me that he hated the look of my face. He said, “Tum apnay gireban me jhanko, apni shakal dekho, apna character dekho” … There’s no special reason. Things were normal but I don’t know what had happened as recently he started to get harsh after drinking. I think that Moin still thinks of himself as a young star, Seher, a showbiz person herself, said. “Cricketers have the same life … (Another Karachi cricketers) wife recently separated and got custody of the children. Complaints remain as (many) cricketers treat their wives like this. Woh apnay beewiyon ke sath is tarha ka rawaiya rakhtay hain … Is tarha kay rawaiye mein kon sath reh sakta he? The problem with (some) cricketers is that they are getting better options outside the house. Unhain ghar ki murghi daal barabar lagti he.”
Both Moin Khan and the police seem to say that this is a ‘personal’ or ‘domestic’ matter. No, it really is not. It is a social matter. A national matter.
This case catches our attention because the man is a former cricket star and the wife a former TV personality. But the story here is repeated every day and goes unnoticed and unreported. His intoxication obviously made matters worse, but the malady here is deeper than alcoholism. It is the way women are treated. The Jansher case was one example, but there have been many others that we have raised here on ATP. Wife-beating is a serious social sin and the sinners here are not only those who do so, it is also those who condone it in the name of tradition or because it is a ‘personal matter’, and it is also those of see it happening and choose to remain quiet.
Adnan, its a public issue and was reported by newpspapers because of two main things. 1. Moin Khan is public figure And 2. It’s rare for the police to make arrests on charges of domestic violence.
And you think others have no brains — sheesh
[quote post=”529″]All one needs to do is to search for “wife beatingâ€
All one needs to do is to search for “wife beating” on You Tube and they will find numerous rulings by ulemas from a myriad of countries about the issue. It’s quite disturbing really.
[quote post=”529″]Is it his personal life? What if he had murdered his wife?
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Now seriously you are talking nonsense. Did HE murder his wife?
Are you saying that me or anyone else have right to poke in your domestic matters? Will you allow others to pass remarks about your family matters? Yes please don’t give any lame statment that “I am the best” because deals with issues whether they are lighter or severe.
[quote post=”529″] it’s not just a ‘personal’ issue – it become a matter for the courts and thence a public affair[/quote]
Then let the law agencies and court deal this issue? who are you that you are desprate to poke your nose in this matter? are you saying that you can deal this matter better than laws agencies and courts.
[quote post=”529″] thence a public affair[/quote]
Who said that every matter discusses in court becomes a public properly? If you divorce your wife and case is filed in court,does that mean that every Pakistani has right to pass his remarks and dictate to court? Talk some sense kid. If you have nothing to say then it doesn’t mean you start polluting the thread by talking lame things.
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Baber, the point wasn’t if women should be presented as weak or not. The point was why is this done? Why didn’t it happen that men are usually portrayed as weak? Because people saw and learned from their experiences and that’s what they presented. And, it goes back to my basic point that Allah made a distinction between man and women, both physically and emotionally. On the flip side, why aren’t men presented as beauty and women are usually equated with beauty? The reason is that in this case Allah provided women with more beauty than men in general.[/quote]
When you say “people saw and learned from their experiences and that’s what they presented” These people are men. Man has always tried to be superior in society. And beauty is how you look at it, Quran says Prophet Yusuf was a very beautiful man. To men generally women are beautiful and to women men are beautiful. I still don’t get it how women is weaker then men physically and mentality?
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It’s not about what they can do or not do; it’s about how well one can do things. I mean, as just one more example, take any army in the world and you will see that, I would guess, over 90% or even close to 100% frontline soldiers are all men–even in the West. Why? It’s simple, generally men will be able to do a better job. That’s why I had said earlier that there are billions of such example. You can’t deny what Allah has put in human fitraat/nature. It’s what it’s![/quote]
Let me tell you why there are no women or few women in army because women are told to be at home and look after the kids. Its because women are brought up differently then men. Its not men are better at doing things, its how much effort one puts into it. I don’t think women are better cooks then men although they always in kitchen. Girls in pakistan excel in exams, I can say generally female score higher then men in Board exams and they are more intelligent then men in Pakistan. Muslim countries like Indonesia and Bangladesh had women prime ministers/presidents. Indonesia is the most densely populated Muslim country. There are women in air force in west, fighter pilots. In ancient east (china, Japan) women were as good fighters as men. I’m not a feminist but sorry I don’t buy it.
[quote comment=”29524″]I appreciate your gesture but please don’t bestow any such words on me here because it’s neither the place nor I am waiting for someone’s approval here.[/quote]
I said you sound like a good man based on your comments because you were not as bitter as other members.